Surviving the Holidays – 11 Tips for the Grieving

My late husband passed away in early October 2009 and within two weeks I dealt with my daughter’s 3rd birthday, six weeks after that was our first Thanksgiving without Mitch and a month later – Christmas. Wow, talk about being hit with an emotional sledgehammer.  The holidays are hard on people even without the added pain of grief.  Please know, there is NOTHING anyone can do to fix your pain. You also need to know that your pain is real, (read more…)

Unique And Devastating Loss

A few months before my wife’s death in the summer of 2009, I would sometimes hear a certain popular song on the car radio. Even now after almost 6 years, I still vividly recall listening to that sad melody one dark, rainy night as I was driving home from the hospital where she was being cared for. Although I would later learn that the song is “Where I Stood” by Missy Higgins, at the time I didn’t know its title, who (read more…)

How to Help the Grieving

Written by Dr. Virgina A. Simpson in “What Grieving People Want You To Know.” How you can help me  Please talk about my loved one, even though he is gone. It is more comforting to cry than to pretend that he never existed. I need to talk about him, and I need to do it over and over. Be patient with my agitation. Nothing feels secure in my world. Get comfortable with my crying. Sadness hits me in waves, (read more…)